The Rule of St Benedict was written in the turbulent context of Italy in the 6^th century to answer the questions of how shall we live, as communities, as individuals, as churches, as businesses etc in an uncertain and fast changing world? The Rule has been rooted in Anglicanism and Benedictine communities are growing while many denominations are in decline. The aim of the Rule is to shape a society that is truly Christ centred and provides the tools to accomplish the task.

The Rule is heavily based on scripture and particularly the wisdom literature of the Bible. It comprises a Prologue and 73 chapters developing into three dynamic sections: Formation, Administration and Renovation. While originally aimed at monastic communities the Rule can help us in the search for wisdom in the 21^st Century.

For St Benedict the starting place for this was the state of the human heart and gaining a greater definition for our own lives and taking responsibility for ourselves.

Following that the next step is for an individual to subordinate oneself to the higher principles and purposes that energise, integrate, balance and anchor ourselves with a greater integrity. This means laying aside where we have come from and taking up the new identity of being a Christian. Now, new rules, new values and new goals apply to our lives because of our new identity.

As I said earlier, the rule was directed towards the monastic lifestyle but in our lives we are then called to self-manage, to exercise personal stewardship and oversight in the use of time, setting goals and prioritising, keeping commitments, focusing on the important but not necessarily urgent tasks.

These first disciplines are about the formation of our character and next set look are interpersonal disciplines that create trust. This is the transition from independence to interdependence. As the great Irish poet, John Donne said, ‘No man is an island’. Aimed at leaders this is about creating a team to shape the community set free creativity but kept in check by boundaries. An example would be creating new ways to worship but ensuring that this is done within the canons of the church as set out in the constitution.

And it is for the leader (an abbot in the original thinking) to keep the morale up, to be observant of those who form the community and maintaining their ‘emotional bank account’ but also facilitating the corporate discernment of the community. Neither of these things are easy to do but keeping the spiritual life of the individuals of the community is essential

One question to ask at this time is who is caring for the leader (the abbot) and the answer is that it is the community’s responsibility to care for the leader through the team effort by the exercising of the gifts and talents of the community. If the community works well together, then the leader can lead.

While making no specific rule about holidays and time off the Rule of St Benedict does insist on a balanced, ongoing daily and weekly regimen and rhythm. It does, therefore, promote self-care, as being constantly available to others does sap the strength and therefore, diminishes the effectiveness of the leader to lead.

In addition, though the rule states that it is the leader who determines the working climate of the organisation. In St Benedict’s case, a monastery, but applicable in other situations as well. It is the leader who has to create the climate of trust but in order to be Christlike they should also be the doctor who cuts out and the good shepherd who seeks out. Not an easy role to balance.

And finally, the community grows if the leader seeks out new sources of energy and information which empowers and generates energy in others which will then drive the organisation forward.

This is just a brief view of the Rule of St Benedict from my point of view following my retreat week based on the Rule of St Benedict for Church Leaders.

“The greatest among you will be your servant. All who exalt themselves will be humbled, and all who humble themselves will be exalted.”

Matthew 23:11–12

The Gospel passage above is very clear. Greatness is found in servanthood. Exaltation is enjoyed only through humility. Is the ideal lifestyle one that is filled with indulgence, entertainment, luxury, and the like? Certainly not. The ideal life, the greatest life, the most exalted life is the life of the most humble service of others as possible.

Jesus was, without question, the humblest person to ever live. Humility enables a person to break out of every selfish tendency and turn their love to the good of the other. The Son of God did not become human because it somehow benefitted him in a self-centred way. He did it because he loved us and his Incarnation benefitted us. Everything Jesus did was done for others and never done out of a selfish desire. Jesus did everything he did out of his love for others and with humility so as to bring salvation and transformation to their eternal souls.

In our lives, we need to make a fundamental choice. Am I going to live for myself? Or am I going to live for others? If we realize that living for others is also the path to our own greatness and ultimate exaltation, then it becomes much easier. Serving others, especially in a spiritual way by which you do all you can to help them grow closer to God, is what will make you great. Nothing else can do so. Believe that and live it.

“And yet, when the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on earth?’ (Luke 18: 8b)

Jesus poses an interesting question here. The answer to the question is dependent on whether or not we each have faith in our hearts. So, what is your answer? I would hope the answer is ‘Yes’. However, it should be more than just a yes answer because our faith is meant to increase over time.

What is faith? Faith is a response from each one of us to God speaking in our hearts. In order to have faith we must first listen to God speak. And when he does this, we exhibit faith by responding to what he reveals to us. We believe in his word spoken to us and it is this act of believing that forms faith within us.

Faith is not just believing. It is believing in who God is, his word to us and what God tells us personally. Faith then gives us certainty as to what it is that God is looking for in our life.

Reflect upon how certain your faith is. Reflect on Jesus asking you this very question. Will he find faith in your heart? Commit yourself to all that God reveals to you every day.

Prayer: Lord, I desire to grow in faith. I desire to grow in my love and in my knowledge of you. Amen

Ever been embarrassed about what to say or write to someone bereaved? I recently read a booklet by Paul Lack, a clergyman and someone who was himself recently bereaved. He had a few pearls of wisdom which I share with you now.

While bereavement is usually associated with the recent death of some close, Lack points out though that many things bring bereavement from the loss of a pet to redundancy and surgery. However, he initially stresses that the bereaved person is the same person after death as they were before and we should remember that. He also says that it is important to say something as saying nothing, ignoring or avoiding a bereaved person is hurtful. He recommends sending a card or a letter or make the phone call and acknowledge what has happened but never say, “ I know exactly how you feel”. Listening is the key and as they talk, what may seem inconsequential to you may be hugely significant for them. Allow them to talk about the person if they so wish and always refer to them by the name they were known by.

In the days after a bereavement, home cooked meals, or practical help can be a godsend. But if you did things together with the other couple say, be mindful of that, still invite them but be conscious of the new dynamic.

And how long do we keep all this up, asks Lack. Well, the answer is always, grief is unpredictable but he does recommend asking about how people they are for at least 5 years.

In the booklet he concludes with a list of What not to say which should be written on a fridge magnet and number one on his list is ‘Do not just talk. Listen!’ which is probably the best advice of all but then he goes on to say: Do not tell people what to feel; Do not deny their feelings; Do not judge; Do not try to fix them; Do not advise; Do not make it about you; avoid platitudes and euphemisms.

Great help in dealing with bereavement.

Reference

Lack, Paul, “What to Say to the Bereaved” Grove Booklet Pastoral 176

What does the Bible say about immigration?

The issue of immigration seems to be the political topic of our time but what does the Bible, our ultimate guide and rule book, tells us about what we should do. It is a topic that crops up in both the Old and New Testament and in both, it is consistent. Here are just two verses from each Testament.

Leviticus 19: 33-34

“When a foreigner resides among you in your land, do not ill-treat them. The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the Lord your God.”

Deuteronomy 10: 17-19

For the Lord your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great God, mighty and awesome, who shows no partiality and accepts no bribes. He defends the cause of the fatherless and the widow, and loves the foreigner residing among you, giving them food and clothing. And you are to love those who are foreigners, for you yourselves were foreigners in Egypt.

Matthew 25: 35-36

“For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was ill and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.”

Hebrews 13: 1-2

Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.

Leviticus tells us to treat the foreigner as we would our own. Deuteronomy shows us that in God’s sight we are all equal and that again, we are called to love them as we do our own and, in this case, it reminds the nation of Israel that they too were once in that predicament.

Move to the New Testament and little changes. We are to welcome the stranger and take care of their needs. And here we have a reminder of the story of Abraham who welcomes three strangers not knowing that they are angels of God.

The Middle East is known, though it may come as a surprise, is exceedingly well known for its hospitality to strangers and travellers, even to this day.

We, as we are commanded to do, as Christians should welcome and love the one in need wherever thy are from for we too may be entertaining an angel.

A Short Reflection on Human Nature

The Bible’s first two chapters paint a picture of God’s creation in harmony: people, living creatures and the natural world all fit perfectly together. The creation myths of the time these stories were written described a world born out of violence and hatred, battles in the heavenly realms. However, Genesis 1 says: ‘God saw all that he had made, and it was very good’.

Genesis 3 is where things start to go wrong for humanity. It shows the truths about human nature. We’re drawn to the bad stuff. There appears to be something darkly attractive about stepping over the boundaries and doing what we know we shouldn’t do. When Adam and Eve disobey God, they become ashamed of who they are. They try to avoid responsibility – Adam blames Eve, and Eve blames the snake. The harmony between them is broken, and so is the harmony of nature. As a result death enters the natural world as God makes clothing for them out of animal skins. Life becomes much harder and much more painful.

The French mystic, political activist, theologian and philosopher Simone Weil once wrote: ‘Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvellous, intoxicating.’

Adam and Eve weren’t abandoned, and the rich tapestry of the Bible is threaded through with grace. But Genesis 3 is a warning: sin has consequences, and when we do wrong we will regret it.

Inspire (Life Lessons from the Wilderness) by Ben Fogle

Ben Fogle is well-known from his TV exploits, most notably his long running series of ‘New Lives in the Wild’ where he spends a week living with people who as they say life off the grid. This book though written during the lockdowns is a longer reflection on his exploration, challenges and most importantly his self-discovery through all of the things he has encountered in life.

One of the running themes through the book comes from the Japanese art of kintsugi which would take a broken piece of pottery and repair it using gold to make a something even more valuable than the initial item despite its’ obvious flaws and repairs. And this is clearly a parallel to say we are all broken vases hwere the repairs build character, strength and spirit.

In his own story he relates this to his adventures and his misadventures in the place he calls home, the wilderness. This is the place that has taught him to deal with love and loss, criticism and failure but also, happiness and sorrow. It is the ting that has helped him be resilient, to manage risk and to live in hope.

His story would mirror many aspects of everyone’s life. Life goes up and down and Fogle has reflected on his own life in these terms to learn from his own failings and weaknesses. And failings have been no stranger to Fogle in his life so much so that he says his life has been ‘defined by the pain of failure’.

However, he sees failure now as very different from years ago defined sadly by social media where just a swipe denotes success or failure where it is easy to pick holes and point out shortcomings. This he believes means that people worry about what is happening in other people’s lives that they fail to enjoy their own. This is why he calls the wilderness ‘his safe place’, a pace to retreat from the pressures of daily life. Indeed, he notes that those he has visited, for example, never wear a watch.

As someone who has clearly received a fair amount of criticism he says that when you have self-doubt and you layer on top the pessimists, the naysayers and the intense scrutiny, you have a perfect storm for doubt and baseless anxiety. The wilderness is for him the place where there is no hate, no anger but a place that he accepts can be dangerous and even brutal. But his experience from those who live off grid so to speak is that they have a higher level of happiness and contentment which he sees as missing from those who live an urban life.

In the book he does this by recounting his adventures with various aspects of the wilderness he has encountered over the years so there are chapters on the sea, the ice cap, rivers, islands, the jungle, the desert, people, wildlife and mountains.

This is a fairly easy read but very poignant and I found I could relate personally to a lot of what he says for he is honest. For example, he is passionate about doing something about climate change but happily admits he is a hypocrite as his work does give him a larger carbon footprint that most but what he does not is that relatively speaking those who choose to live off grid do have a substantially reduced footprint. But then again, he recognises that not everyone can do that either.

This is a book about life, its ups and downs, its contradictions, its restrictions and its opportunities. It was a really uplifting book and something will resonate with everyone.